Question
Pinelopi:
I would like to ask Rhonda how I can ignore the negative
people/situations around me and focus on love & appreciation at the
same time.
Answer by Rhonda Byrne
The
way to deal with negative people or situations in your life is not to
judge them. Have no judgment about negativity versus positivity. Neither
is actually good n or bad. They’re both equal, but just different
choices.
If
you have the freedom to be positive, then you must allow others the
freedom to be negative. No one can force you to be negative, just as you
cannot force another to be positive. You are free to choose what you
want for you – and you choose positivity. And it’s great that you
choose positivity because your life will be much easier and filled with
great things because of that
choice.
It’s not your job to change other people. Your only job is you,
and that is such a relief! Let the others be as they are, and you be
the shining example of love, appreciation, and positivity, and through
that you will uplift others.
In
the early stages, before you’ve stabilized yourself in a more positive,
feeling-good frequency, other people and their negativity can seem to
take you down. In these cases, often the easiest thing to do is remove
yourself as gracefully as you can from the situation. Do it as often as
you need to. Remember – your job is you .
The
better you feel, the less anyone else can affect you. Ultimately - when
you’re feeling really good - no one else will affect you. The better
you feel the less problems you see. The better you feel the less you
will encounter anything negative. So, the ultimate task ahead is to feel
good, and remember this: feeling good is your natural state of being.
You don’t have to work yourself
into a frenzy to get there - all you have to do is not pay attention to
the negative stuff. Don’t give any attention to negative thoughts; they
don’t belong to you. Don’t give your attention to negative feelings;
they’re just sensations, and if you let them be, they will pass through
you quickly. And don’t judge anyone or anything. In other words, don’t
have an opinion about others.
